Have things become a little stale for you both in sexville? Do you and your partner find yourself going through the same-old routines only to be left feeling cold? Or perhaps you have a thriving sex life but are intrigued to try something a little more ‘outside of the box’?
Whether you’re all loved up in the throes of a new relationship or settled into a long-term one, here are five sexual experience ideas you might like to introduce into your bedroom. Or kitchen. Or bathroom – we don’t judge.
Oil up and indulge in a couples sensual massage
The oils, the candlelight, the masterful rhythmic strokes of the masseuse easing you into a state of deep and utter relaxation — what could be better?
Well, how about a couples sensual massage?
Combining the soothing strokes of traditional massage with the decadent eroticism of erogenous play — it’s a supercharged, sexy version of your standard massage and a whole lot more beneficial for your sex life. In a sensual couples massage, both you and your partner surrender yourself to the pleasurable strokes of a masseuse as they titillate and stimulate your erogenous zones. Not only does it feel incredible, but there’s nothing quite as erotic as watching your partner naked, writhing with pleasure in front of your eyes.
Best of all, a couples sensual massage is a profoundly intimate experience that works to bring you and your partner together to reawaken your sexual energy and reignite your sensual desire for each other in a safe and nurturing space. No need for couple’s therapy, this sexual experience is a sure fire way to get things going in the bedroom again. And with all that sexual energy, you’ll feel the benefits long after you’ve left the room.
Dress up and get down with role-play
Our lives are busy and stressful. Amidst the constant chaos of bills, family, friends and work, you may find that you have little to no time to get intimate with your partner. So you resign yourself to quick romps between episodes of the show you’re binging or in the few spare minutes you have after putting the kids to bed before they inevitably get up again. Not exactly the passionate, exciting and creative sex life you imagined, right?
If your love life has become a bit “in-and-out”, then maybe it’s time to get creative with sexual role-play. Sexual role-play is a thrilling game of seduction where you both adopt a persona and enact a sexy scenario that gets you going in all the right ways. To play, all you need is a naughty imagination, a splash of creativity and maybe a cheeky prop or two. Don’t worry if you’ve not quite mastered Oscar-worthing acting abilities, sexy role-play success is based on an open attitude, a willingness to indulge both yours and your partner’s sexual fantasies, and a commitment to your scenario.
Fantasy and creativity are the building blocks of a fiery sex life, and sexual role-play indulges both of these at the same. And for a tempting bonus, you get to step out of the mundanity of your day-to-day life and re-experience your partner through the eyes of a stranger. Whether you fantasise about becoming submissive to your partner, or the idea of a pert policeman gets you going, or you want to reenact your first meeting, set the scene, decide on your characters and let the creativity flow.
Technologically enhance your sex life with sex toys
The sex toy industry is worth a whopping $10 billion US dollars, and sales have never been better. It turns out, we all love these nifty bedroom tools. You’ve probably experimented with sex toys in your solo play, but have you ever thought about bringing them into your intimate sessions with your partner? If not, you should!
Sex toys are designed to supercharge sex, so don’t be afraid to introduce them into your relationship. All those good vibrations and extra stimulations will help to take your sex to the next earth-shattering level. It’s not just for women either. Sure, vibrators are an easy way of stimulating the clitoris in ways that makes it way easier for her to get off, but there’s a whole load of toys out there also designed to heighten male pleasure.
If you’re new to sex toys, start simple. Handcuffs, lube, and bullet vibrators are all good places to start. And once you’ve started to open yourselves up to the technologically enhanced pleasure that’s possible with sex toys, there’s no going back.
Let someone else do the talking with erotic literature
Is there anything more daunting than when your partner pulls a Jason Derulo and pleads “talk dirty to me”? Even the most sexually liberated among us are prone to cold sweats, tied tongues and fumbled, awkward sex talk. And yet, dirty talk is a great way of getting things heated in the bedroom, and when done well can take your session from average to mind-blowing in a few simple sentences.
If you want to talk dirty but don’t know how, leave it to the pros and whack out some erotic literature. There’s loads of great erotica out there that speaks to every form of kink and desire, so find something that gets you going, and use the words of people who are paid to talk dirty. Take turns reading out loud from an erotic book and imagine that you and your partner are the leads in the story, whether that be a stable boy and a strict mistress or a mousy intern and a high flying businessman (we’re talking Mr Grey if you missed that). Believe us — you’ll be chucking the book aside after a few sentences.
For an added bonus, reading also helps stimulate your mind and imagination, so it’s kind of like foreplay for the mind as well as the body — what could be better?
Find a unicorn aka ‘threesome’
Have you ever fantasised about bringing a third person into your bed? If so, you’re not alone — threesomes are one of the most popular sexual fantasies out there and for good reason. Not only does bringing a third person into your sex life add a little variety and excitement but it also allows for another avenue for pleasure — as the saying goes, many hands make light work!
Threesomes may not be for everyone, it takes an incredibly strong and trusting relationship to share your loved one with another, but for the right couples, a threesome can be a transformative experience. As long as everyone is comfortable and consenting, then a threesome can help add some excitement and thrill into a worn-out sex life, while that delectably naughty extra layer of taboo is bound to get you both going. Variety is the spice of life right?
Author Bio: Rose Colette Aston is the resident blogger for London Tantric, a prestigious, personable and professional Tantric Massage Agency in London. Rose has extensive experience as both a giver and receiver of therapeutic massage, meditation and breathing techniques.