Guest post by Peter Minkoff of Queer Voices magazine.
Can we all agree that there are trends in sexual practices just like in everything else? Granted, as we become more open and honest with ourselves, we become more willing to experiment and try out new things. If you look historically at sex, you will not fail to realize that blowjobs were not that popular several decades ago, at least not as popular as they are today. On top of that, in recent years, we have seen the popularity of certain fetishes, such as foot, armpit, or even pissing, meaning that we are indeed moving forward and becoming more open to experimenting.
But all of these could have stepped aside when anal play was brought to the game. Years ago, people were not really comfortable letting anyone play with their asses, but as we are trying to be more open to sex in the 21st century, this changed as well. Now, if you want to jump on the bandwagon and try the peach for the first time, these are the things that you should know if you want your partner to have the most fantastic experience ever. Take a look:
Be completely sure you want this
You need to make sure that you are completely relaxed and supported. The first thing you need to do, especially if this is new to both of you, is to discuss this option with your partner. Talking about it can really help both of you out and prepare you mentally for this new thing you want to try out. Anal play is one of the most popular sex trends right now, and it’s not without reason – people enjoy having their asses played with. Also, discuss if you want to use some sex toys in the process; this might make the whole experience even more pleasurable.
Be sure to take it slow
Just like in anything in life, it’s not a good idea to just rush into things. Instead, take things slowly and only when both of you are ready for this step. It doesn’t matter if you’re going to rim or engage in penetration, make sure to take it very slow. You need to put a bit of effort into relaxing anal muscles, and the best way to do this is by gently touching it and playing with it.
Practice makes perfect
In case both of you want to try anal sex but are still uneasy, you can always practice with a sex toy beforehand. Opting for a good vibrator that you will use to relax the anus and prepare your partner for what comes ahead is a great way to do it. Not only does it stimulate all the same areas as full anal sex, but it will also provide the enjoyment of playing with a sex toy.
Go crazy on the lube
The first thing that you need to have in case you want some ass play is lube. Don’t try to save on the lube – the more you use it, the better. The lubricant will allow for a smoother and more pleasurable, and comfortable anal penetration, so it doesn’t matter what you’re going to do with that ass, make sure you lube it good first. What you want is an extra natural organic lube or coconut oil if you have that at home. However, do not use oil-based lubricants with condoms as oils damage latex, which can cause it to break.
Experiment with different positions
Once again, it doesn’t really matter what kind of ass play you are going to go with; you will have to experiment a bit with different positions, especially if you want to be the reason for an unforgettable orgasm. Anal sex is not only doggy style; you can experience anal sex in any position you want to, even missionary (which is actually a rather interesting position for anal sex). You want to experiment with your partner and see which position suits you both the most.
Playing with someone’s ass can be pleasurable for both of you, especially if you know how to do it. Remember, go slowly in the beginning and take your time to relax those ass muscles – use your fingers and your tongue before using anything else. Do this, and you’ll get your partner onto seventh Heaven in no time… and they will not want to come down!
Peter Minkoff is a sex and dating writer at Queer Voices magazine. Follow Peter on Twitter for more tips.