Many of us believe a lot of things about relationships that just aren’t true and we do things that, despite being well intentioned, can end up undermining our own happiness. That’s why this episode of the Sex and Psychology Podcast is all about boosting your relationship IQ by revealing the secrets of relationship success.
I interviewed relationship expert Dr. Gary Lewandowski. He is a Professor at Monmouth University and author of the new book Stronger Than You Think: The 10 Blind Spots That Undermine Your Relationship…and How to See Past Them.
We talk all about his new book, and some of the key topics we get into include:
How believing in the idea of a “soul mate” holds us back from finding relationship happiness.
Why it’s OK—and healthy—to be a little bit selfish in your relationship.
How too much closeness in your relationship can push you and your partner apart.
Why you shouldn’t tell your partner, “if you love me, you’ll change.”
How going for a partner who is way more attractive than you can produce a less stable relationship.
Why it’s important to embrace disagreement and conflict in your relationship.
Why breakups usually aren’t as bad as we think they’re going to be—and how to move on after a relationship ends.
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Photo: Gary Lewandowski