March 4, 2022 by Justin Lehmiller
Relationships and marriages aren’t just hard–they’re harder than ever because the expectations around them have changed so much. What worked in the past isn’t working anymore, so it’s time for a new approach. We need to figure out what works for us as individuals and create custom relationship agreements that reflect our wants and needs. But what goes into creating an ideal relationship agreement? That’s what we’re going to be discussing today.
My guest is Dr. Tammy Nelson, a certified sex and relationship therapist. She is host of The Trouble with Sex podcast and the author of several books, including Open Monogamy: A Guide to Co-Creating Your Ideal Relationship Agreement. Some of the topics we discuss include:
- Why maintaining long-term monogamy today is more challenging than ever.
- How to know if an open relationship is right for you.
- When it’s a good idea to open up, and when it isn’t.
- Why empathy is key to having healthy relationship communication.
- How to navigate difficult conversations with a partner, and what to do when you have different wants and needs.
- The key ingredients of relationship agreements.
- How often you should revisit your relationship agreement.
- Common problems that can arise in open relationships, and how to deal with them.
To learn more about Dr. Nelson, visit drtammynelson.com and be sure to check out her book, Open Monogamy.
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Dr. Justin Lehmiller
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Dr. Justin Lehmiller is a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He runs the Sex and Psychology blog and podcast and is author of the popular book Tell Me What You Want. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, and a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works.