Episode 18: Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About Anal Sex, But Were Afraid To Ask

January 21, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 18: Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About Anal Sex, But Were Afraid To Ask


As a sex educator, one of the topics I get asked about most often is anal sex. This isn’t surprising, given that this subject usually isn’t discussed at all in most people’s sex education courses—and, if it is, it’s usually just described as a very high-risk activity. Also, if you look for information online, you’ll inevitably encounter a lot of conflicting reports and it can be hard to know what to trust. So what do you really need to know? What do people tend to get wrong about anal sex, and how can you have safer and more pleasurable encounters?

For this episode of the podcast, I interviewed Dr. Evan Goldstein, who is the Founder and CEO of Bespoke Surgical, a leading private practice specializing in an elite standard of sexual health and wellness care for the modern gay man. He is also the founder of Future Method, a sexual wellness company bringing science into anal sexual health. We had a wide-ranging discussion about all things anal, and this episode is for anyone—regardless of gender or sexuality—who has explored or is interested in exploring this activity.

Topics covered in this episode include:

  • How many people are having anal sex?
  • Why do so many people find anal stimulation to be pleasurable? Also, what do we know about prostate-induced orgasms?
  • Does anal sex really cause long-term damage to the body?
  • What’s the difference between the anal sex you see in porn compared to what it’s like in real life?
  • Is it normal for anal sex to be painful?
  • How can you make anal sex a safer and more pleasurable experience?
  • What do people need to know about anal douching? Is it necessary? And what’s the safest way to do it?

To learn more about Dr. Goldstein and his work, check out his medical practice here. Also, be sure to check out his Future Method products, designed for science-backed sexual wellness.


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Dr. Justin Lehmiller

Founder & Owner of Sex and Psychology

Dr. Justin Lehmiller is a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He runs the Sex and Psychology blog and podcast and is author of the popular book Tell Me What You Want. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, and a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works.

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